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marylynda 5/4/10 may all recieve help they need and speed recovery of life
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Mary 5/10/10 Yes, Amen.
Mother McBoo 1/11/08 Dearest Wondering Child,
Here is my take on the rules about lighting candles for others,especially (sp?) with your situation in mind. I do understand time has passed since you posted, still, I am adding my voice.

Remember what you do comes back to you X 3. Intent matters!

You may ask (him) directly, "May I light a candle for you?" Then the prayer that goes out, should be written with love in your heart, even if it (your heart) is hurting. Example: "For '___', may he see the love that is meant for him, and good for him, find the joy, and pleasure of a good relationship, (be it with me or not).

You may ask their higher self, by closing your eyes, before the candle, and picturing your intended and your message. If it's okay, the words will come easy and flow well, so then proceed. If not, your fingers will fumble and your words will sputter and stop. Then rethink your message, and try again. Let the guidence that comes from love, be ever present.

Lighting for yourself is alway okay. Ask for what you want, but not how and/or who. Example: "I ask for a loving, faithful partner who is committed to our beautiful relationship" NOT "I ask for '___' to stay with me."

Lighting candles for situations is okay too. Example: "I light this candle for the separtion, may it be as pleasant as possible, and have an ulitimate positive effect. (For all parties affected)

Good luck, and may you see the wonder of love in all areas of your life.
Mother McBoo




Christine 12/17/07 When I was with my X, I wanted that person to be truly happy. And if that meant them not being with me but being with someone else then so mote it be. Well it hurts but I am happy knowing that my ex is happy because my ex it with someone else.
Starlight 11/30/06 Dear Sandyvic,
You have a right to ask for what you want. You are a child of the God and Goddess and what do you do when you need something, you ask your mother and father. This is the purpose I believe of lighting the candle. It is a request for what you want. But also ask that if it is His and Her will to let your marriage continue with more love and caring and all of the good things a marriage can bring, then you are placing the decision in their hands. They will decide what is best. You may or may not get what you ask for, but you will know that they made the best decision for you. I believe when you ask for something good, it cannot be bad. Take care and much love - Starlight
Sandyvic 11/25/06 Thank you for your reply, Crystal. No, I wouldn't want anyone to do this to me. I just didn't understand how it all worked. I don't want to force my H to be with me if he no longers wants to be part of my life.

Take care.
Sandyvic 11/25/06 Shannon, Max, and Bill. Thank you so much for your replies. I realize what I was doing, and decided to leave it in G-d's hands. I was desperate, but not anymore :-).

I thank you all for being kind in your replies. And you all are correct, I wouldn't want anyone wishing for me to do anything against my will.

Take care.
Crystal 11/21/06 You are taking away his freewill, how would you like it if someone did this to you?
Shannon 11/20/06 I agree with what the others have to say. I mean it's like what if God (god forbid) told you, you had to go to hell are you going to fight with him too? You have to learn to accept what is is. Just let him go. There's an old saying if you let something go if it comes back it's meant to be. If you show him that you are willing to give him what he needs then maybe in time he'll come back. When someone says No then you should listen, there must be a reason for him wanting a divorce. Maybe you are showing him your controlling side and he doesn't like it?
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Max 11/20/06 Also prayers are for helping someone in need. Such as for healing, or getting well. Your like asking God for a million dollars and of course it isn't going to happen. You have to respect yourself and his wishes and respect him. If you don't he will resent you for it.
Max 11/20/06 You shouldn't impose on what he wants. Why would you want someone with you when they don't love or care for you? You sound desperate. You should just let him go and try to find someone else. He could turn abusine on you, he could cheat on you etc. No point in trying if he's not willing to be with you. You're better off moving on without him. How would you like it if someone did this to you???
Bill 11/17/06 When you ask for something involving another person without their permission you are imposing your will upon theirs. Always ask that the best for all be done. Sometimes the best result is not the one you want at the present. Remember, the main thing here is you must never impose your will upon anyone else - this is coercion!